Would you say “You look fat” or “You should lose weight” or “you shouldn’t eat that - you’ll get fat” to a friend? Would you pinch their stomachs or pull at the fat on their backs with disgust in your eyes? Would you tell them to suck their belly in because their pooch is showing? Would you yell at them for going up a pant-size?
So, you need to start being your own friend. You deserve to be your own friend.